Month: October 2018

Nearly ten percent of women, according to the distribution charts, are introspective, yet warm and inviting adventurists. They deal with people according to how they feel about them, or how they fit into internal value systems. While striving to consistently act within a strong set of values, they tend to rebel against anything that conflicts with that goal. More to the point, I believe, they rebel against anything standing in their way of living according to their beliefs.

They are likely to be kind, gentle, and sensitive when dealing with someone not close to them while keeping them at emotional distances. Actions win over musing, but their heart guides their decisions.

Because they take life seriously, but because they are both extraordinarily perceptive and generously warm and caring, they desire to serve with their whole hearts. This makes life challenging, their perfectionism often causing intense self-scrutiny with unnecessary harshness.

As secondary characters, this personality is excellent for foiling aggressive and tyrannical characters or contrasting the beauty of life against logic and cold rationale.

The vast majority of men, over a third of the distribution of personality traits tend to rely on logic, rule by thought rather than emotion, and place facts over other people’s feelings.

Are all men cruel, especially when it comes to competition in the boardroom, field, or gameboard? In my experience, many men feel so inadequate about their position in life, that they put other men down to build themselves up. In the world of competition, tactics that appear mean-spirited are even welcomed. They cheer the champion as he defeats the opponent all the while thankful not to be the one facing the king of the hill.

There are some, however, who understand there is power in vulnerability. 8.1% of men are kind-hearted, gentle, and value harmony. Some realize that more is accomplished through mutual cooperation than through competition. These men bring out the best in others.

How many Psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? Only one, but it’s gotta wanna change. Significant changes occur in people’s lives only when they are ready to face the fact that they are not perfect, not the best, don’t have to be the king of the dung-hill. Those that facilitate those changes, however, are the real heroes.

There is a war-champion somewhere in all men. We love to cheer on the underdog, scream in excitement when the miracle play, the hail-Mary, is up for grabs and through sheer force of will and determination is caught, and the tides turn. We sit on the edge of our seats rooting for our team and the closer the score, the more we scream at the screen against the unjust referee, the blatant call, the obvious missed opportunity.

There is also somewhere deep in the recesses of every man the magician bearing the wisdom of the ages. Generosity feels good, even more so when there are no strings attached.

The difference between men who rely on logic and those concerned with others feelings come down to one thing, I believe. Do each of us have the brass knuckles to find and live with passion. What is the difference between passion and anger, an excitement that creates opportunities and ferocity that cowers? Attachments. Those who live without attachment to outcomes are free to experience the world. Those who do things, everything, with an expected outcome, especially when those expectations concern other people, will always live with disappointment. And it is often those disappointments, and the fear of continual disappointment, that turn passion into outbursts.

Little boys are taught to ignore their emotions and push them deep inside. Since emotions unattended eventually seek out the light, they come out of us in waves of torrent and frustration; passions with nowhere to run.

The third most common personality type for women is the Performer (ESFP): Extraverts who love being the center of attention. While they almost crave the spotlight, they can also be thoughtful explorers who love learning and sharing new insights with others.

Never underestimate a performers’ ability to read people, who use their interpersonal tool set to acquire loyalty. Because they are warm, generous, friendly, and sympathetic, they can appear to be concerned about others’ well-being. While underneath, they may harbor such qualities as greed, lust, power-lust from the majority of their associates.

This combination could make for some very interesting villains, don’t you think?