Whether introverted or extroverted, the majority of women are Sensing, Feeling, and Judging. Nearly seventeen percent of women are of the extrovert variety. Social butterflies with a predominant need to connect to others, they organize households, neighborhoods, and communities around great causes. They gather specific details about others and turn this into supportive messages making people feel good about themselves.
In this nurturing way, the feminine supports and strengthens the masculine making it possible to fulfill his goals, thus fulfilling her innermost needs. Behind every successful man, they say, is an xSFJ.
What would happen, though, if the Sensing, Feeling, Judging person were evil, cowed into darkness by major heartbreak, abandonment, and abuse of every kind? Wouldn’t that make a truly malevolent antagonist?
Do you have a favorite dark character that fits into these descriptions?
If men aren’t the inspector (ISTJ), they are next likely to be ESTJ – The Supervisor. It’s interesting that, regardless of whether they look inside or out, majority of men rely on senses and facts rather than feelings, logic over emotions, and judgments before perceptions. We tend to have strong habits and focus on what is or has happened rather than what might happen. We see efficiency as more important than cooperation and prefer planning to spontaneity. Sounds like just about every male protagonist I have ever read about.
What would happen to our stories if our male protagonist was open minded or curious? What if he sought out cooperation or maintained social harmony instead of causing strife? What if they were a relaxed nonconformist who made laid back decisions while keeping options open? Would our stories be less compelling? Would tension in our plots slacken? Would we bore our readers into purchasing more vampire date-night plots and our bank accounts into overdraft?
As expected, the majority of women are ISFJ-Nurturers. Their introspective nature empowers them to find generosity within themselves. This, in turn, generates mercy, kindness, and empathy.
These are strong emotions for a writer to work with. A woman’s sensitivity to others emotions can shed light on the darkest problems, and even find their solutions. Though Nurturers aren’t solely focused on resolutions and goals, their ability to bring out the best in others provide mechanisms that lead to the end of conflict and the reuniting of lost souls.
In my own writings, I often find myself using the nurturing capabilities of women to clarify emotional conflicts and unite people with their lost goals.
How do you use nurturers, either male or female, in your stories?